Every time you turn around, someone is trying to make life more
fair. Trying to make sure that there are
only winners and no losers. Life isn't
fair. There will always be winners and there will always be losers. Period. What would be the point of a competition if
everyone always won? If everyone always
took first place? If everyone got a blue ribbon? If everyone got a trophy? If everyone won a gold medal? That's not life. That's fantasy land. Since
when did everyone get a raise? Since
when did everyone get that promotion?
Since when did everybody get their dream job? Since when did every
entrepreneur have success? That is just
not the way life is. I defined success
in my first book as, “Running from failure to failure with a smile on your
face.”
Both of my boys have played youth sports since they were 5
years old. They first started playing
baseball. There were two leagues that we could have played in. One was a
noncompetitive league, where they didn't keep score. There were no winners and
no losers. In this league everyone was a winner. There were no strikeouts, and everyone got to
hit in each inning. As soon as each kid was done hitting, the other team got
their turn. There were no outs. For some
parents who didn’t like competition, this was perfect. They wouldn't have to teach their kids about
winning and losing. I'm sure these are the same type of parents who have
petitioned schools all over the country to get rid of dodgeball. Probably the
same parents who are against schools having an honor roll too. They don't think
it's fair that some kids get recognized as being smart, and other kids are
labeled as being dumb. They want every
kid to get a participant ribbon or a trophy.
They want everyone to win!
The baseball league we chose to play in was a recreational,
competitive league. Now remember, the
kids are only five, so they did let them have six strikes before it was
considered an out. The first four
strikes are balls that were pitched by the coach. If they missed the first
four, then the coach set up a T for the kids to hit from. They had two more swings at the ball from the
T. If they missed those, it was a strikeout. It was never any fun to see a
five-year-old strikeout, but it did happen. They weren't scarred for life. Sure
they were upset for a few minutes, but before you know it they forgot all about.
When the team made three outs in the
field, the inning was over. They did
limit the amount of runs scored in an inning.
At the end of the game, there was a winner and a loser. Most times it was more upsetting to the
parents whether their kids won or lost than it was to the kids themselves. As my boys have grown older and started
playing other sports like football and lacrosse, winning has become more
important.
Winning and losing is a part of life. The sooner kids learn
that they're not going to win at everything they do, the much more prepared they
will be for life. Parents want to protect their children, and as a parent, I
completely understand. But protecting your children is not the same as
sheltering them. I want to protect my children. I want to make sure that
nothing bad ever happens to them. I want to make sure they make the right
friends, that they get good grades, and that they treat their friends with
respect. What parent wouldn't want
that? But when it comes to sports, they
have to know that there are going to be winners and losers. Every time they
play a game they need to know that they might not win. Some kids have a hard
time losing. Especially when they start playing with friends as they get older.
By their parents always allowing them to win, they can't handle losing. These kids grow up being very sore losers. They
grow up with a false sense of reality.
They grow up thinking they are always going to be a winner. I don't completely blame the kid. I blame the
parents. I blame the system.
I enjoy watching the Olympics every other year with my
family. Whether it is the winter or the summer games, my family gathers around
the television throughout the games to watch the competitions. The Olympics is the ultimate sports
competition. As athletes from around the
world compete against each other to see who becomes an Olympic champion, it
doesn't get any better than that. Each athlete has an incredible story of
perseverance. They have all had
challenges in their life they have had to overcome to become an Olympic
athlete. The years of sacrifice,
training, and blood sweat and tears to make it to the Olympic stage is an
awesome feat in itself. If there was ever a time that everyone deserved a
medal, it would be the Olympics. But everyone knows they only give out one
gold, one silver, and one bronze for each event. There is only one national
anthem played at a medal ceremony. Thank goodness those parents, who think that
all children deserve a trophy, aren’t on the Olympic competition committee. If
everyone got a medal, what would be the point?
The drama and the excitement would be gone. The thrill of victory and the agony of defeat
would not exist.
I have found that the only way to get better at anything is
to make sure you compete against good competition. If you always take 1st place, you
will not challenge yourself. You won’t
push yourself. You won’t put in the
practice or the effort needed to get better.
If you always landed every job you have ever interviewed for, you are
not challenging yourself. You are
applying for jobs below your expertise.
You need competition. You don’t
learn much taking first place. When
everyone is behind you, you aren’t forcing yourself to improve. When you get beat, and don’t finish on the
top of the podium, you learn. When you
are chasing someone from behind, you learn to get better. You learn to get faster. You learn to get smarter. If you always win, you get complacent. You get comfortable. It is only when someone beats you that you
get better.
Competition needs winners and losers. It is natural. It is the way life is. It is the way life has always been. It is the way life will always be. The sooner people learn this concept, the
better off they will be prepared for the journey of life. If you succeed at everything you do in life,
you are not trying hard enough. You are
not stepping outside of your comfort zone far enough. Get out there and fail. Make sure you fail in the right
direction. Learn from your failures and
become stronger from them. If you fail
enough, you will probably win a few trophies along the way.
Chris Coltran is based in Acworth, GA. He is the author of the book, “Selling To Your Grandmother,” and President of C2 Unlimited. He has worked in manufacturing, distribution, wholesale, and retail, as well as being a sales and marketing consultant to various companies. Chris is a motivational speaker, having spoken to various groups in the floor covering, furniture, automotive, and service industries. He is also an entrepreneur helping other entrepreneurs become successful. For more information or to contact Chris, he can be found on the web at: www.chriscoltran.com and via email at: chris@chriscoltran.com
Chris Coltran is based in Acworth, GA. He is the author of the book, “Selling To Your Grandmother,” and President of C2 Unlimited. He has worked in manufacturing, distribution, wholesale, and retail, as well as being a sales and marketing consultant to various companies. Chris is a motivational speaker, having spoken to various groups in the floor covering, furniture, automotive, and service industries. He is also an entrepreneur helping other entrepreneurs become successful. For more information or to contact Chris, he can be found on the web at: www.chriscoltran.com and via email at: chris@chriscoltran.com
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